After a workout at the gym my little one and I stopped by Subway for some lunch. I was actively trying to think of my next act of kindness but nothing was really coming to me. I scanned the room looking at the customers, hoping for inspiration, but nothing hit.
We finished eating then walked outside and I happened to make eye contact with a man sitting on the sidewalk. He softly asked me if I had any change so he could get some food. Well I rarely if ever have actual cash on me. I told him that but said that if he wanted to follow me back into Subway I’d buy him some lunch. I told him to order two footlong’s so he’d have something for then and something for later.
He was a very quiet man, and seemed almost defeated. I’ve felt defeated before too, but for different reasons. As he quietly thanked me I replied with a heartfelt “You’re welcome” as I patted his arm.
No snark today, just a good deed, that my 4 year old asked me all about on our walk back to the car. He asked me why I bought that man lunch. “Because I could, honey, because I could.”
“Being good is commendable, but only when it is combined with doing good is it useful. “
↑ An example of what is NOT a true act of kindness – even if it is just a teeny bit funny. ↑
I’ve managed to fit in a few random acts of kindness, nothing super huge or grand, just small scale RAK’s.
- I helped an older woman unload her grocery basket at the store. She was a bit hunched over and seemed to be struggling, so I just started helping her. I’ve found that if you ask someone if they want help, they’ll often just say “No thank you.” but if you just step forward with a smile and start helping they’ll let you help, and be grateful for it. While this was just a small gesture, it still felt good to know I helped someone in need.
- I found a parking meter that didn’t spit out paper tickets, but rather was the old school type where you feed the coins and the time increases. So I popped in a few quarters on a meter that was about to expire. Good deed done, that probably never got noticed. That’s okay, because I know and my 4 year old saw me do it. I’m happy to know I’m teaching him how to be kind, by example.
- At the mall yesterday I complimented a lady on her hair, and she got the biggest smile ever. Made me smile too.
And that completes my random acts of kindness for the past few days. What kind things have you done lately? Please share.
“You can feel better about yourself in a very short period of time depending on the kind of magic that you are doing.” ~ David Copperfield
So look, I’m not trying to be a hero here. I just want to be a better person. Straight up I’m here to say that I was born a pessimist. However, for the past few years or so, I’ve really made a conscious effort to be optimistic. Funny though, when in full on pessimist mode, I’d never, ever admit it. I’d call myself a realist! Which, ya know, felt true. I think most pessimists don’t want to admit they are negative, but until you can say the words out loud, then you can never hope to make changes. That can actually apply to many things! You can’t change what you won’t admit needs to be changed! Or some jive like that.
Since admittance is the first step to real and lasting change, I’ll start my very first post by standing up…
and introducing myself:
Hi, my name is Heather. I’m a pessimist turned optimist, with occasional set-backs. I’m married to a Pollyanna sort of man who has permanent rose colored glasses on. He makes me want to be a better person (no gagging sounds now, I have to let loose with some mush on occasion!). From this day forward I’m going to do what I can to be a nicer, kindlier, gentler person, and do my very best to keep ideas of throat-punching obnoxious people out of my thought process. I’m going to use this blog to keep myself accountable.
Let the Random Acts of Kindness Begin!
……………………..Starting first thing tomorrow!
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”