cheap wine

My family and I went for a drive to the city today.  It wasn’t an especially nice part of the city, but when in Rome (I’m not actually in ROME, it’s just a saying, peeps) you kind of want to see Rome, not just the pretty stuff, but the nitty gritty stuff too.

Anywho, we pulled up to our destination, and I was extremely thankful I wasn’t the driver. Some forms of parallel parking I can handle, but not when you have precisely two inches on the front and back side of you to squeeze in. I leave that sort of maneuvering to my Pollyanna husband.

Not wanting to get hit by oncoming traffic I squeezed out of the right side of the car, over my son’s car seat. I think I made a sound sort of like… grr..uh..umpfh.. on the way out. Much to my dismay, I looked down and some douche-bag had left an empty bottle of cheap wine on the ground! It was right where it could roll onto the street and cause an innocent person’s tires to wind up slashed. So annoying! So rude! Ohhhhhh, wait a minute!!! Lightbulb moment! Soooooo a chance to do a good deed!! An opportunity to perform a random act of kindness presented itself – fell into my lap, even!

Completely un-edited photo of the offensive wine bottle left on the street

Not knowing who had touched it last I gingerly lifted the bottle up with two fingers and looked around me. I looked to the left. I looked to the right. No trashcan nearby, but the city had placed these sort of plastic planter type things around some strategically placed trees. So I set the wine bottle in the planter and felt very proud of myself. And immediately drowned my hands in hand sanitizer (I always carry some in my purse!).

My family and I walked down the street, doing our thing and when we were done, we walked back to the car, as any normal family would do.

When we got to our car, my husband’s eyes fell to the wine bottle in the tree planter.

Quizzically he looked at  and said something like “In the planter? Why not in the trashcan?”

Me: ” There’s no trashcan around, and I sure don’t want to put it in my car, who knows what kind of germs are on it?!”

Pollyanna husband: “There’s a trashcan just half a block that way” (he pointed down the street).

Me:  (Did I mention at this point it was drizzling? Well, it was, and any moment that drizzle could turn into a downpour! A deluge I tell ya!) I scrunched my face up at him and said something super cool like: “Uh!” or it might have been “Guh!”

And I climbed over the car seat back into the car, done with that conversation. Still taking baby steps, but hey, I do think this counts. I potentially saved someone from a lethal cut or flat tire, or worse! I feel good!

It’s not true that nice guys finish last. Nice guys are winners before the game even starts.


Hello world!

So look, I’m not trying to be a hero here. I just want to be a better person. Straight up I’m here to say that I was born a pessimist. However, for the past few years or so, I’ve really made a conscious effort to be optimistic. Funny though, when in full on pessimist mode, I’d never, ever admit it. I’d call myself a realist! Which, ya know, felt true. I think most pessimists don’t want to admit they are negative, but until you can say the words out loud, then you can never hope to make changes. That can actually apply to many things! You can’t change what you won’t admit needs to be changed! Or some jive like that.

Since admittance is the first step to real and lasting change, I’ll start my very first post by standing up…

and introducing myself:

Hi, my name is Heather. I’m a pessimist turned optimist, with occasional set-backs. I’m married to a Pollyanna sort of man who has permanent rose colored glasses on. He makes me want to be a better person (no gagging sounds now, I have to let loose with some mush on occasion!). From this day forward I’m going to do what I can to be a nicer, kindlier, gentler person, and do my very best to keep ideas of throat-punching obnoxious people out of my thought process. I’m going to use this blog to keep myself accountable.

Let the Random Acts of Kindness Begin!

……………………..Starting first thing tomorrow!

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”
Golda Meir